The thought of seeing a therapist makes many people uncomfortable. This is understandable as you go to talk about things that are stress producing, hurtful and troubling. It is difficult to walk into a stranger’s office and speak of heart felt, private issues. Counseling really is a unique experience. In my office you need to know you are in a safe place, you will not be judged, my ideas and values will not be imposed on you and everything we talk about is and will be confidential. It is your Vegas, just like the old commercial, “what happens in Vegas …stays in Vegas.” Confidentiality is the essence of counseling and allows it to work.
When clients come in for session, they have usually exhausted their resources and feel they need help, say a new perspective, options or a plan. Together we sit down, talk and decide what works for your particular needs and situation. Sometimes clients know exactly where the problem lies, but are not sure what to do about it. Other times, they know there is a problem, but have no idea what is causing it. Either way, training and experience come into play and with a collaborated effort, we will work through to resolve your issues to a happier, healthier state of well- being. This is accomplished with individual, couples, family therapy, or sometimes an appropriate combination.
Remember, “Life is hard.” There is no shame in having problems. You are not unique in that regard. It is sad and potentially tragic when people continue to live in the shadows of their problems, afraid to confront them, continuing to push them down in an effort to deal with them, consequently affecting their marriage, work and all aspects of life. Often the frustration and pain is too much and they begin to self-medicate. They will do any thing to escape these feelings. Your body hurts from depression and anxiety. For some, escaping to alcohol, drugs, sex, work, porn etc., feeling an intermittent reprieve, can escalate to an addiction. Before you know it, you have even bigger problems than before.
There is help. Find a good therapist, someone you can comfortably talk with that has the training required to help. I would be happy to meet with you and talk.