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Seeing a Therapist….

July 22, 2015 by beverly steinhauer Leave a Comment

The thought of seeing a therapist makes many people uncomfortable. This is understandable as you go to talk about things that are stress producing, hurtful and troubling. It is difficult to walk into a stranger’s office and speak of heart felt, private issues. Counseling really is a unique experience. In my office you need to know you are in a safe place, you will not be judged, my ideas and values will not be imposed on you and everything we talk about is and will be confidential. It is your Vegas, just like the old commercial, “what happens in Vegas …stays in Vegas.” Confidentiality is the essence of counseling and allows it to work.

When clients come in for session, they have usually exhausted their resources and feel they need help, say a new perspective, options or a plan. Together we sit down, talk and decide what works for your particular needs and situation. Sometimes clients know exactly where the problem lies, but are not sure what to do about it. Other times, they know there is a problem, but have no idea what is causing it. Either way, training and experience come into play and with a collaborated effort, we will work through to resolve your issues to a happier, healthier state of well- being. This is accomplished with individual, couples, family therapy, or sometimes an appropriate combination.

Remember, “Life is hard.” There is no shame in having problems. You are not unique in that regard. It is sad and potentially tragic  when people continue to live in the shadows of their problems, afraid to confront them, continuing to push them down in an effort to deal with them,  consequently affecting their marriage, work and all aspects of life. Often the frustration and pain is too much and they begin to self-medicate. They will do any thing to escape these feelings. Your body hurts from depression and anxiety. For some, escaping to alcohol, drugs, sex, work, porn etc., feeling an intermittent reprieve, can escalate to an addiction. Before you know it, you have even bigger problems than before.

There is help. Find a good therapist, someone you can comfortably talk with that has the training required to help. I would be happy to meet with you and talk.

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Porn is ruining the lives of an entire generation…

June 29, 2015 by beverly steinhauer Leave a Comment

Yet another article as to how porn actually effects lives. Young adolescents and teens can become especially vulnerable, experiencing profound effects, such as erectile disfunction and the inability to have a meaningful, loving relationship. Their values and ideas become confused.

http://www.businessinsider.com/porn-ruining-sex-life-2011-10

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Porn is taking away men’s ability to have actual sex…

June 21, 2015 by beverly steinhauer Leave a Comment

Who would have thought looking at porn could be a real problem. Studies today are showing erectile disfunction as well as the inability to have a caring, loving relationship, to be the result of  pornography addiction or prolonged, frequent use.

fightthenewdrug.org/porn-is-taking-away-mens-ability-to-have-actual-sex/#sthash.JDc3i692.OmemnQEb.dpbs

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Seven Signs

June 2, 2015 by beverly steinhauer Leave a Comment

By Lisa Kirchner 08/03/12

From serial dating to unsafe sex to unexpected STDs, here are some must-read tips to find out if you—or your partner—are suffering from sex addiction.

Watching porn certainly does not indicate one has a problem with porn or sex addiction. An infidelity does not indicate sex addiction. How can you identify a problem or this much misunderstood addiction? This is a very direct, down to earth article about the signs and symptoms you might want to see a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT) about.

http://www.thefix.com/content/7-signs-you%E2%80%99re-dating-sex-addict70002

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In Crisis…What Now?

March 15, 2015 by admin Leave a Comment

I often see the betrayed spouses of sex addicts. They make an appointment and come in in crisis having just found out about their husbands infidelity via seeing a text on their phone, walking in to find him looking at porn, or becoming aware about an affair. They are confused, angry, hurt, in shock, and have no idea what to do. This is particularly traumatic when they are truly in love and surprisingly find out that the one person they assume has their back, is lying and leading a double life.

What should I do? What do I tell the kids? Is this for real?
Please, wake me when this is over!

The betrayed spouse may well be dealing with a sex addiction or a form of infidelity. With the marriage being threatened, the troubled spouse may comply and come in for help. There is much that can be done to help with porn addiction, cyber sex addiction, multiple lifetime affairs etc. Thanks to the renowned Patrick Carnes, Ph.D. and his work in the area of sex addiction since the 1980’s, we now know what it is and how to treat it. He has developed a task-based model. CSATs (Certified Sex Addiction Therapist) have studied his model and become competent with this standard of care. We know it has worked extremely well for people struggling in these areas. Also, we know, the traumatized partner deserves a chance to heal from all she has been through with her mate. CSATs are trained to work with the partner as well. Whether she stays or goes, she needs a chance to process what she has experienced so that she may understand and move forward with a healthier insight of herself and the spouse in the future.

I have had patients in recovery refer to the worst thing in their life, turning out to be the best thing in their life. Basically saying, had they not gone into therapy with the crisis, they would not have had the chance to enter recovery and learn so much about themselves. This new found insight turns out to be conducive to a happier, healthier lifetime. Many couples do make it through the storm, stronger and closer. Do not suffer in silence. There is help for you.

Filed Under: addiction, betrayed spouse, gratitude, sex addiction Tagged With: addicts, betrayed, betrayed spouse, certified sex addiction therapist, CSAT, recovery, sex addiction, sex addicts

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Life is a journey that sometimes requires assistance whether you are struggling with everyday problems or more complex issues. Your choice of Counselors is important. With over thirty years of experience in nursing and counseling, my approach is holistic, working with each client to give them hope, while bolstering their self-esteem and strengthening their ties with a supportive network. This is accomplished in a safe, confidential atmosphere of mutual respect, fostering sensitivity and understanding. My interest and training are diverse with advanced, specialized training in several areas. These sub-specialties broaden my scope of practice and capabilities to meet the individual needs of my clients.

Some areas of Interest and Experience include but are not limited to:
Sexual Addiction
Partners of Sex Addicts
Intimacy disorders
Relationship problems
Mood Disorders including Depression and Bipolar
Anxiety Disorders
Chronic Pain
Trauma Resolution
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
Sexual Abuse
Incest
Adult ADHD
Teens and Online Addictions (i.e., Pornography and Gaming)

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Aren’t we all addicted to sex?

I recently heard this remark. Not sure if they were joking or serious. I think the best way to approach this question is to ask what constitutes an addiction. Merriam Webster defines addiction as: The compulsive need for and use of a habit forming substance (as heroin, nicotine, or alcohol) characterized by tolerance and by well-defined physiological symptoms upon withdrawal; broadly: persistent compulsive use of a substance known by the user to be harmful. With regard to sexual addiction, I have heard several definitions, but I deferred to Patrick Carnes and his explanation. “Sexual addiction is defined as any sexually-related, … Read More >>>

Why should I choose a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist (CSAT)?

As a problem becomes more complex, it requires more specialized treatment. Certified Sex Addiction Therapists (CSATs) are recognized as experts in sex addiction treatment. Often sex addiction has underpinnings of trauma and abuse. CSATs are trained to pick up on things that another counselor would perhaps not see.

Take a Screening Test

The Sex Addiction Screening Test (SAST) is designed to assist in the assessment of sexually compulsive behavior that may … Read More >>>

SIGNS & SYMPTOMS

There are many signs that point to sex addiction, below is a list of some symptoms and signs to watch out for: Loss … Read More >>>

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