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De-Stressing the Holidays

November 15, 2015 by beverly steinhauer Leave a Comment

The kids will soon be home and the holidays are fast approaching. Most people love the holidays, but some find them stressful, depressing and sometimes lonely. Between work, shopping and all of the festivities, they can be totally over-whelming.

In October of 2000, Xylo conducted a random survey regarding stress and the holidays. The results showed the most frequent cited reasons for stress or anxiety were shopping, lack of time, and expense.

A bit of management can perhaps make the holidays more enjoyable for all. You do have the advantage of hindsight regarding past holidays. What worked well for you in the past. What was problematic? What changes might be beneficial for yourself and everyone?

Give everyone a heads up as to what to expect. Let them know that this year you are trying a few things differently. This way there are no surprises and everyone has a chance to adapt.

Pull out your calendar. Plan your holidays, events, family outings, shopping, etc. You might have to visit family one week early for Christmas or have a family dinner two days before or after to get around to everyone. Perhaps everything will not be celebrated on Christmas day, but this way you might get to see everyone and be ultimately less stressed.

Have expenses got you down? Set a budget. Take advantage of potluck dinners and spread the work around. Let everyone bring their favorite. With a little planning you can have full-course meals. Consider home made gifts this year. Of course everyone should not be limited to someone else’s decision of how they plan to give, but do what you can comfortably do and feel good about it. A homemade gift is a gift of one’s time and there is nothing more valuable than time.

So customize your Christmas and make a few changes in an effort to de-stress your holidays, and most of all….,while pacing yourself, enjoy the holidays, be nice and keep the joyful spirit.

Filed Under: addiction, anxiety, depression, drug addiction, gratitude, positive psychology, self awareness, Uncategorized, worry Tagged With: expense, holidays, lack of time, shopping, stress

Five top Signs of a Gambling Problem

July 20, 2015 by beverly steinhauer Leave a Comment

Addictions can present alone or in combination with other addictions. Gambling, like other addictions, is escalating. Eighty percent of gamblers consider suicide following devastating losses, with one in five actually attempting it.

Top Five Signs of a Gambling Problem

Chasing Money ~ This refers to a gambler returning the net day to win back present loses. While in a new addiction, this makes sense. To anyone else, from any other point of view, more betting equals more problems, not a solution.

Higher Stakes ~ As with other addictions, use starts out small and eventually becomes unmanageable. Constant upping the ante, so to speak, is a common sign of a problem.

Disconnection ~ Problem gamblers put their priorities on hold for their gambling. This means neglecting relationships, poor performance at work or school and a failing home life. When life takes a back seat to gambling, you know a problem exists.

Betrayal ~ Lying to loved ones is a definite sign of a problem. This doesn’t have to be a huge lie, something as simple as hiding a betting slip or claiming a win, even though they experienced a loss.

Extreme Financing ~ This sign of addiction often shows up late in the time line. Running out of money does not stop the action. When bank accounts run dry and friends and family stop loaning money, some turn to extreme measures such as stealing, lying, forgery or fraud to finance the gambling addiction

Filed Under: addiction, anxiety, depression, self awareness, Uncategorized Tagged With: gambling addiction, gambling and alcohol, gambling and drugs, gambling and suicide, Gambling problem, gambling smoking and alcohol, help with gambling

Porn is ruining the lives of an entire generation…

June 29, 2015 by beverly steinhauer Leave a Comment

Yet another article as to how porn actually effects lives. Young adolescents and teens can become especially vulnerable, experiencing profound effects, such as erectile disfunction and the inability to have a meaningful, loving relationship. Their values and ideas become confused.

http://www.businessinsider.com/porn-ruining-sex-life-2011-10

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What is addiction?

June 27, 2015 by beverly steinhauer Leave a Comment

There are many ideas about addiction and what it is.  Dr. Gabor Mate’ gives a very reasonable explanation of addiction.

http://www.filmsforaction.org/watch/what-is-addiction-gabor-mate/

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Porn is taking away men’s ability to have actual sex…

June 21, 2015 by beverly steinhauer Leave a Comment

Who would have thought looking at porn could be a real problem. Studies today are showing erectile disfunction as well as the inability to have a caring, loving relationship, to be the result of  pornography addiction or prolonged, frequent use.

fightthenewdrug.org/porn-is-taking-away-mens-ability-to-have-actual-sex/#sthash.JDc3i692.OmemnQEb.dpbs

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Life is a journey that sometimes requires assistance whether you are struggling with everyday problems or more complex issues. Your choice of Counselors is important. With over thirty years of experience in nursing and counseling, my approach is holistic, working with each client to give them hope, while bolstering their self-esteem and strengthening their ties with a supportive network. This is accomplished in a safe, confidential atmosphere of mutual respect, fostering sensitivity and understanding. My interest and training are diverse with advanced, specialized training in several areas. These sub-specialties broaden my scope of practice and capabilities to meet the individual needs of my clients.

Some areas of Interest and Experience include but are not limited to:
Sexual Addiction
Partners of Sex Addicts
Intimacy disorders
Relationship problems
Mood Disorders including Depression and Bipolar
Anxiety Disorders
Chronic Pain
Trauma Resolution
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder
Sexual Abuse
Incest
Adult ADHD
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